Another common fear is the fear of being alone. This fear can really take you down the wrong path, and some people are so possessed by this pocket of fear, that they've come to believe that nothing is worse than being alone. I know; I used to be that way.

 

I know many single people who are intelligent, have good jobs, and are very successful in many areas of their lives. But they are so fearful of being single that very often this pocket of fear causes them to stay in relationships far too long, to allow relationships to develop which were obviously wrong from the beginning, and to put up with inconsiderate and harmful treatment from another person just to avoid being alone.

 

The abused spouse is another example of this fear. Often spouses will endure all kinds of abuse just to avoid being alone.

 

Are you struggling with that pocket of fear—the fear of being alone or being single or not having someone to live your life with? If you allow that fear to continue, it will grow stronger and stronger and start to control your life. And, obviously, you'll be miserable.

 

Will you bring that pocket of fear into the light? Think about it: What is so terrible about being by yourself? You can do what you want to do, spend your money the way you want to, eat when you want to and what you want to. Imagine what it would be like to be with the wrong person; aloneness is highly preferable to being with someone who is not right for you. Face the fact that you might be alone or single for the rest of your life; get it out in the open and expose it to the light. Does that mean you cannot have a meaningful life? Of course not!

 

This fear of being alone is an unreasonable fear. Besides, if you will reach out to others and start helping others, your life will be so full of people and love and meaningful relationships that you'll covet some time alone.

 

Then, find some scripture to remind you of God's eternal presence in your life. Jesus promised he will never leave us or forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). Nothing you can name will ever separate you from the love of God that you have in Christ (Romans 8:38-39). Concentrate on God's promises to you, and defeat that pocket of fear of being alone. It's a monkey on your back, and you don't need it.