As written and presented by Mary Whelchel

PROGRAM D-6051

If you're a single Christian woman, have you ever said, 'Where can I find a really sharp Christian man?' I admit it's not easy. I'm sure men think it's not easy to find just the woman they want either, but it's no secret that there are usually more women than men involved in church and Christian groups. That's true in every category-young, old, single or married. It's also true that there are more women than men in this world. So, there don't seem to be enough to go around.

Faced with this fact, we must learn to live with it and not allow ourselves to go nuts over any Christian man who comes along, nor allow ourselves to be plunged into despair. A couple of probing questions to ask yourself to keep from this is:

What is your first thought when you see or meet a new Christian man? Let me guess: Is he single? Or Is he taken? Now, I don't know if you'll ever be able to stop that first thought, but the secret here is to immediately abandon that line of thinking. Say to yourself, 'This is first of all a person. I will relate to him as I would to any new person I was meeting. I will not allow myself to look at him as a potential partner.'

Do you find you are feeling sorry for yourself or commiserating with other single women about the shortage of men? I frequently hear talk like this among single women. It's not a great topic for conversation, for you to simply keep reinforcing the idea that there's a big problem finding a Christian man, because that starts affecting your thinking. It causes depression and dreariness. I see it on the faces of single women so often-the look that says, 'Oh, poor me, I'm a good Christian woman, but where are the Christian men?'

It's one thing to recognize the shortage. It's another thing to let that reality control and depress you. I have discovered that often when I'm having difficulty accepting some situation, it goes back to my lack of trust in the sovereignty of God. When you really focus on believing that God is in control, it changes your outlook on the circumstances of your life. You have to trust him; nothing else makes sense.

As a single woman, Mary is familiar with the pitfalls that ensnare single Christians. In her book Common Mistakes Singles Make she understands and offers non-compromising, biblical solutions for singles. This week she is offering the book at a special price of $5. Call the ministry at 1-800-292-1218 or go online to www.christianworkingwoman.org to order.

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